As a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator and a mother, I know first-hand the challenges and rewards of parenting children. Even though you love your children, there will be moments of anxiety, exasperation, frustration, and, at times, despair in not knowing the best way to approach these challenges. Parents are responsible for meeting their child’s physical and emotional needs and teaching them life skills, social skills, and role modeling appropriate behaviors. At times this can feel overwhelming, especially to new parents.
What Is Positive Discipline Parenting?
Positive Discipline Parenting is a program developed by Dr. Jane Nelsen based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs. It is a model established on Adlerian Psychology to teach children to become responsible, respectful, and capable members of their families by teaching essential social and life skills.
According to attachment theory research, children are hardwired from birth to connect with their mother/caregiver. Establishing this connection is vital to their learning of social skills and reaching their highest potential.
Challenges in Parenting
Modern parents face various challenges with effective parenting, including the ability to provide consistently good quality childcare, financial hardships, the stressful pace of life, lack of sleep and rest, feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, attending and being mindful of meeting the needs of a baby or toddler, scheduling and planning children’s school and social activities, meeting the demands of a career, attending to family responsibilities, and maintaining their couple relationships.
Moreover, parenting a child with mental health, physical or developmental disability requires additional psychological and medical treatment. When there are several children in a family, parents may experience feelings of guilt and stress in not providing equal amounts of attention to their children due to the demands of a child requiring additional care.
Concepts of Positive Discipline
Parents provide models of respect, kindness, and care by respecting themselves and the needs of their children.
Identification of the core beliefs behind the behavior
Effective discipline recognizes why children behave in a particular manner and works to change those belief systems.
Parents learn practical communication skills and demonstrate problem-solving skills.
Parents learn to focus on solutions instead of punishment.
Parents provide encouragement noticing the effort and improvement, building long-term self-esteem and self-worth.
How Can Parenting Therapy Help?
Parenting therapy provides assistance and guidance in identifying, addressing, and managing their own experiences that may be interfering in parenting their child. Parenting therapy provides couples with effective communication to maintain a structured parenting approach where they are both on the same page regarding parenting goals for their children.
Parenting therapy provides an inclusive, safe space that is non-judgmental, non-shaming, and non-blaming. Parents can collaborate to have conversations regarding complex parenting issues and learn how to manage these circumstances more effectively. Parenting therapy seeks to provide parents with the essential psychoeducation, support, knowledge, guidance, and practical skills to become the best parents for the overall well-being of their children.
Benefits of Parenting Therapy
Education on how to respond to their children
Support during challenging parenting issues
A safe space to discuss and process emotions
Awareness of parenting community resources
Parenting strategies for healthy families
Parents who are experiencing affairs and infidelity
Parents in the process of separation and divorce.
Parents with mental health and medical health problems
Parents with alcohol and substance abuse problems
Parents coping with grief and loss
Parents dealing with their children’s issues of trauma
We are here to provide guidance, hope, and support in becoming the best parents for your children and offering the encouragement that they need for their childhood development. Schedule a Free 20 Minute Video Initial Consultation.
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Sandra T. Azar, Ph.D., and Kerry N. Makin-Byrd, BA, Psychology Department, Pennsylvania State University; Robert L. Nix, Ph.D., Prevention Research Center for the Promotion of Human Development, Pennsylvania State University